“Who are you? Who? Who?” from the band “The Who”. By the way: who are you, and who am I?
This excellent piece, below, came from a site http://www.mileychile.com.
Once I have established who I am, a question comes from within, at times:
“Am I good enough?” If my level of “good” defines who I am, then I’m up-creek without a laptop, without coffee, and without a paddle. “Being good” can be truly ambiguous.
Am I good? Or am I good?
Things are not always as clear as they seem. I can be “good” and still have some issues. “Challenges”, “opportunities”, and mistakes can come up; and I can still be “good”. The wheels may be falling off; the car may need a transmission; my friend may be ticked off at me … but I can still be good.
Plenty of examples, but one of my favorites is with Apollo 13. Image to the left is from the link http://ecrc.nl/houston-we-have-a-problem/
Jim Lovell: “Houston, we’ve had a problem.”
CAPCOM 1: “This is Houston. Say again, please.”
Jim Lovell: “Houston, we have a problem.”
Astronauts Swigert, Lovell and Haise were definitely going for it, which is what we do, right? When “a problem” emerged, things were ugly. But, the mission wasn’t just the responsibility of those three wild men. Other men, in Houston, were for them.
http://history.nasa.gov/SP-350/ch-13-1.html Authenticity, in the midst of our struggle to be “good”, means being willing to have mistakes. Authenticity means having some good folks you can walk with through this jaded, conflicted, addicted world … friends who are for you.
“Things are not as bad as they seem. Things are far more serious than what they appear.” Anonymous
I believe the human mind, the human soul, the human condition, can drive one to be so preoccupied with “being good”, which connects with being accepted, that we communicate this: “Tell me what to do, and I’ll do it so I can ‘be good’ …” One issue with that approach to acceptance and identity, is that one’s inner peace may be contingent on someone else’s decision: “Are you good enough? Are you performing the way I want you to perform? Are you meeting MY needs?”
I actually believe that some individuals don’t care about inner peace. For me, inner peace has great value. If I have a problem, I will keep calm. I will tell Houston that I have a problem. I will deal with it. And I can still be good in the process.